a knuckle bump and a high five from everyone in the house before he can leave or go to sleep. Yesterday at Chuck E. Cheese he was very determined to get a knuckle bump from Chuck, he wouldn’t walk away without one. Anyways.. I am a firm believer in schedules and boundaries for babies and toddlers… I would be so lost without the schedule that Benjamin follows but man if he misses a nap hell breaks loose. Yesterday the party at Chuck E Cheese started exactly at the time Benjamin goes down for a nap and he didn’t sleep very good the night before so he was already a little cranky but man on man as the day went on he got CRANKIER and CRANKIER... it’s extremely overwhelming and what’s sad is I understand those women that lose it… you know the moms that loose there cool and shit happens.. I would never dream of hurting Benjamin and I have a lot of self control so I know I would never but man do I understand those feelings. But it wasn’t really his fault you know I knew he should have had a nap but I didn’t make him so he and I both suffered. Poor guy..
Anyways this topic of feelings overwhelm and despair got to thinking of what is the right course of action… hitting, spanking, yelling, ignoring, soothing, holding like what do you do when you get so emotional about the behaviors of your children… I don’t agree with hitting or spanking I feel it is so damaging to the child… you can’t control you and your emotions so you have to lash out in physical harm. No matter what age of the child I don’t feel physical harm is the right course of action. Its demeaning and it’s not the child’s fault they are getting harmed, they didn’t make you hit them… there could have been another repercussion that happened, grounding, taking things away, time out, chores.. You know. Now I am no expert on the subject I just know I would never want Benjamin to think I would harm him out of anger.
"Infliction of pain or discomfort, however minor, is not a desirable method of communicating with children."
Anyways on happier note I got new court date… hopefully things will go better this time its within the next couple months I don’t really want to say when. But I am actually really hoping things go better in mediation this time I pretty much spelled things out as specific as I could to get Scott and the Judge to see what I feel is the best for Benjamin… I just hope Scott will actually look at what is best and not his ego.
Soooo, Benjamin’s birthday is so soon April 24th which also happens to be Easter.. that makes me sad because I want him to have his own day to celebrate his life.. I think what I am gonna do is have Easter basket in the morning and presents and cake and what not in the evening.. I don’t see us having a party since he doesn’t have any friends except his cousins who of course will come over cake and ice cream. I made him a quite book.. well I still have some touch ups to do but I think I will save it for his birthday and get him a little traveling toddler backpack so he can have his own stuff on the plane rides.
If I have a monument in this world, it is my son
I have a couple prospective job opportunities with Sears and Macy’s which I will be interviewing for this coming weeks. So Hopefully I get something soon so I can stop being a bum and have a little income.
Just some random thoughts I thought I would share with the world…
Post 2. A picture of yourself and the person you've been closest to the longest.